Stage 5, Acceptance, III, well, uh...

[faithisbelieving]

Thanks to all. The other morning, I awoke to find a typed letter that my STBXW wrote and sent a copy to her L and the LG. To show you how bent she is, I had emergent surgery in the morning that couldn't be cancelled without causing emotional and physical hardship on a patient. I had discussed this a week earlier and composed a compassionate letter to the judge.

In the letter she writes that I 'didn't show up for court' and with regards to saying that our son needs counselling, she writes that I shouldn't be practicing psychiatry and I should leave that to professionals.

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You only need to be a mother or a father to know that your son is hurting and in pain.

The screaming that she started at 1145 at night, she writes that I STARTED A HEATED ARGUMENT. No...I responded with a discussion...SHE started yelling.

My STBXW is warped. She also talks about an emergency meeting with she and the LG.

Huh?

My L told me she hadn't discussed anything like this..that my W is sick and fantasizing...that the LG is NOT allowed to make custody recommendations...etc.

When I first read the note I was concerned...worried..and lost a night's sleep. Today...I realize it is bullshilt. I wrote nearly an EIGHT page response to the LG listing ALL the crap she did the last few months..including the destructive divorce conversation she had with the kids. In fact, I taped my nephew telling me that S8 and D5 told him how mommy had this talk with them. It is inadmissible stuff but I have it just the same.

My L wants the letter but told me NOT to send it to the LG...that they aren't to be burdened with D stuff...that they CANNOT make a recommendation re: custody...that there is NO meeting unless LG requests it or the judge orders it.

Ya know..it's an amazing thing...how all this crap happens and how people warp stuff. It's reprehensible. It's so painful to think of all the destructive stuff my STBXW has done in front of the children...then turns around to blame me and paint me as the fall guy.

I'm OK. I did have a bad week...lost some weight, but, I got my Fireside bagpipes together today and brought them to work. I'll play a few short tunes for the people at work and at the hospital.

FIB