Short story: WAH - 2004 had an affair while I was pregnant. We try and R. Left me last August, ILYBINILWY. I db. He wants to come home after 3 months. I agree as long as thing are different, that we have total honesty and we can start fresh, MC. During his separation, I told him on many occasions that if he was involved with another women, to please tell me so I can move on with my life. He constantly said there was no one else.
We get back together in Nov. things are good at first, then start falling back into "emotional emtiness" myself, although he claims that he feels good about our R and happier than he ever been. FF to last month, I find phone records (lots of them) from the time frame just prior to our separation up until he came home. I confront him, he says it was an old coworker (female) that he talked to alot when he was gone. More comes out that the actually went out to dinner and had coffee close to 10 times. Now I feel like he has broken the straw that holds up the camels back.
All the old wounds are back open and there are many new ones. He claims there was nothing physical but I don't believe him. I've told him I want him to do a polygraph.
Question: Am I "out of bounds" for requiring this? Has anyone else done this? And, if so, I am I humiliating him? How does asking the WAH to do this "fit" within DB'ing?
