Hi VickyD, thanks. I don't always agree with some of the arguments of "wait the affair out," etc., because then I think we're just the "second option" in my opinion. We become second choice, NOT something I want. However, I do think people whose spouses are with someone who is clearly not the better option may have a chance in getting their spouses back. In my case, I believe my H is looking for a younger woman who doesn't have baggage and problems, health problems, etc. So I think how can I possibly compare? The woman he hangs out with is 15 years younger than me and 17 years younger than him, pretty, young, impressionable, and big time EGO BOOST. All shiny and new. She brings no problems to the table. I am the old shoe and like someone else mentioned, given no chance because of our 20 year history and good and bad times. It is so frustrating and most days, I really wish I could truly be done and move on. I am not sure what is stopping me, other than my son.
