Hey AF -- I'm really sorry to read about this continuing come-here/go-away with your W. It must be like living in Crazytown. My sitch is bad emotionally, but I am more than happy to give W all the credit in the world for trying to make it be decent in the house. We talk like normal people; we laugh at the same jokes we always did. She just wants X and I want Y. But you, my brother? My heart is out to you.
A buddy of mine just got the bomb. Misery loves company, I suppose. I immediately referred him to this site and to DB and DR, but he was having none of it. I guess he'll find his way here soon enough. Or not. He's got to do his own thing.
I mention him, though, because his sitch is A LOT like yours -- only Navy, not AF. And his WAW is doing much the same stuff yours is. But Buddy's got good instincts. His WAW asked him "what stage are you in" -- referring to the traditional stages of grieving (Kubler-Ross) -- and he simply replied "The stage where if you want me to get used to this you're going to have to leave me alone."
Seems to have worked! Now I don't know if he "really" intends to get used to it or not -- like I said, he wasn't all that interested-sounding in DB and MWD -- but he's surely interested in her shutting the hell up for a while!
