Its nice to hear from you. I appreciate your feedback and I can give myself a little pat on the pack (they've been in short supply lately), that I am doing the right thing in regard to a 'strategy'.
In England, the petitioner can cite any reasons for divorce (in regard to 'Unreasonable Behaviour') and the ones she is citing: - playing golf too often, neglect etc are not argued by a judge if I in this case, do not argue against the 'reasons' cited. we all know these are excuses, the real reason being loss of closeness, growing apart, but these are not ground for divorce in England. She has clearly noticed my 180's because she suspects I am going to challenge the neglect issue because of my permanent changes in regard to spending more time with the children, housework, more attentive to everybody's needs. This is not the reason I am doing this but in her warped mind this is what she assumes, though instead of looking at this as positive changes, she sees them as an ulterior motive. I have already seen a solicitor which she knows about, but being in the mood she is she said "I was going to use those solicitors, why didn't you tell me"? I cannot do any right and all she trying to do is to draw me into another row which I decline by walking out of the room.
Kev, is it worth me going to a DB coach as it looks as though my situation is beyond repair and the only thing I can recover is my self-confidence and looking to the future. Do I try and see even after our divorce a chance of a reconcilliation or just let it go, as hard as it will be?
Last edited by markhaving probs; 03/17/0911:46 AM.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
