My complaint is that she does not WANT sex for herself, doesn't enjoy it any longer. She only obliges me for the sake of keeping me around. I've been at this almost a year now and still can't get this point through to her. Her wanting *it* and me is what I truly want.... She still just wishes I would lose my desire for sex altogether. I want mutual desire between us.... she wants a platonic roommate that pays the bills. I'm stumped as to how I get her to find the joy in sex, especially when I don't think she wants to find it. Cinco
No, I totally understand what you are saying. Mechanics are tertiary. She doesn't want sex and it doesn't matter what trapeze you swing from, she doesn't want to be there and she doesn't want to be there with YOU. My wife keeps talking to her OBGYN about her lack of desire. (once a year, whether she needs to or not) Accepting that it isn't a physical problem would mean that she has to take a look at our relationship/intimacy/mental/history status and that isn't going to happen.
