I just wanted to encourage you to avoid the pressure stuff. My H accepted the "darK" stuff for awhile and now is pressuring me and it really pushes me further away rather than pulling me close. I didn't realize how much I am bothered by him invading my space and not respecting my boundaries. AT least that is how I see it. This does not mean that I don't want our M to work out - I am still trying to get it through his head that he has to change tactics - stop thinking about himself and think about me. Is it too much to ask?
