Well today was awful again. He kept confronting me at work - before the day started - in between clients, at lunch and later. The day started out with another message left - he admitted that I usually call him back even when angry - but since I didn't call at all he thought something else was wrong and asked me to call him and talk about it. I didn't. I was busy but I didn't call back because I didn't want to continue the dysfunctional pattern we have. Got to work -seems he wants a reconciliation and asked me what I wanted. Then proceeded to not care about what I had to say. He went off on a tangent about his life. I tried to cut him off because I had a lot to do. He kept on and I insisted he leave - it went on all day. He kept trying to convince me of something - and I wasn't buying it. I asked nicely several times to leave me alone and got a lecture on how I push him away. I thought it was more like take a look at yourself and what you are doing - DOES HE NOT UNDERSTAND THAT WHAT HE IS DOING ISN'T WORKING?!?!?!?!?
AT the end of the day I called him and acknowledged that he has a lot to say but I would appreciate him not doing it again at work. His response was more poor me stuff and I learned that his motivation for the reconciliation right now - (sly one and still self centered) . His baptism and confirmation comes up in a few weeks and he is upset that he has to go alone and come up with a lie about why his W isn't there - and he admitted that he needs my help with his sobriety. I told him - try telling the truth sometime and I gave my support for the last three years and two previous times at AA. I don't have it in my to keep doing it. His response was to say that he would never bother me again.
I feel sorry for him and I would like to be there for him but it is still ALL about him and nothing about me.
