What I do mean is what advice do you have? I want these to decisions to be mine so I know whatever happens I did it MY way. I do want the best chance to stay married.
No snooping here. The lies I caught her in were before she left a month ago. I have made no mention of the A or the OM since she left. I know that if I dwell on it I will drive myself crazy so I have been able to shut it out.
Please get to know me first before you assume I'll f*ck another girl. I love my wife more than anything and I'm all in for the long haul.
No where did I say that I thought the IC would snap their fingers and she would come out of it. I was just giving that bit of info because she suffers from depression. It runs in her family. I've read through the archived threads and I know this is going to be a long time and know there are no guarantees and I also know this is going to be the hardest f*cking thing I'll ever do in my life.
I was controlling, needy, desperate
I now don't contact her unless it has something to do with the kids.
I brought up the enabling because that is what my C said I am doing and she said I should put her in crisis to force her hand and that is diametrically opposed to everything that I have read so I was looking for reassurance.
