First things first... Need, down the time frame of Thanksgiving and what was said, man that brings back some memories. Wow almost the exact same thing. Except my good friend instead of a boss and I have 2 boys not 3 kids.
Well,
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Please give feedback as to what direction I should go.
No.
What do you want? Do you want the best chance to be married? Do you want to call it quits? I refuse to tell you what direction you should go, that is your decision, you'll have my advice regarding your choice.
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This past weekend I made a slight mistake of making some R talk.
If you don't want to be married, keep doing this.
If you want to be married STFU about R talks.
You caught her in lies...because you are snooping, looking at cell phones, reading emails, or cross examining her...or possibly because she is MLC bat sh it cazy she can remember crap and trips herself up. But more than likely because of your actions. Stop doing those things.
She will probably keep screwing her boss and unless you want to make them even closer as a couple by trying to split them apart, you need to back off. Believe me I know the pain of knowing your wife is f-cuking some other guy. Don't retaliate by sleeping with some other girl...this isn't tit for tat. Right now no tit for you. Sorry.
Don't put to much faith in the IC snapping his/her fingers and your wife waking up. MLC takes time to get through.
Work on yourself, what faults did you contribute to the failing marriage, kill those faults.
Know this: There is no quick fix. Deal with it, you aren't special, no matter what your parents told you, in this you are not the guy who gets through MLC in a few weeks or months.
DO NOT talk to your friends and family about her. If she comes back or wants to; everyone knowing what went on makes it harder for her to come back.
Enabling...Do right by you according to Divorce Remedy. Don't worry about enabling her...if you try and prevent her from anything, you are the bad guy.
Right now its going to feel like your a doormat, well from one former doormat to another...one day you'll realize that deciding to do this for your marriage is about control, and you have it, and always had it.
She is going to keep lying to you. So stoping asking questions. Your asking questions because you hope she is going to give you the answer you want to hear. Soooo she lies. OR she answers in a manner that you don't really want to hear. So stop asking thsoe questions.
Trapt, Jimbo new guy help him out.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
