(1) your wife has to begin to discover and explore her own sexuality again, or perhaps for the first time, and then...
Baggy, man this is where she/we is/are stuck... this is the woman that wants me to forget my own sexuality for gosh sakes. She wants me to take the damn SupressSex pill! Even if only jokingly.
I DO get bj's and that's exactly what they are from her... a job, a chore. I don't think she really enjoys giving me this pleasure but she WILL do it and IS good at it. (I know I'm killing all of the guys on here saying to themselves, "What the hell is wrong with you Cinco? You've got it pretty good, quit complaining.)
As far my returning the favor. I enjoy doing this, I want to do this, it's a turn on for me, I can't imagine ML without it, and for Mrs. Cinco it results in the vast majority of her O's.
So what's the problem?
My complaint is that she does not WANT sex for herself, doesn't enjoy it any longer. She only obliges me for the sake of keeping me around. I've been at this almost a year now and still can't get this point through to her. Her wanting *it* and me is what I truly want.... She still just wishes I would lose my desire for sex altogether.
I want mutual desire between us.... she wants a platonic roommate that pays the bills.
I'm stumped as to how I get her to find the joy in sex, especially when I don't think she wants to find it.
