The book I received, "how to improve your marriage without talking about it" by Love and Stosny, freaked me out. There is list of things a woman can do to "break" her man (all resulting to shame for him). Well, I scored a very high score during the last year we were together. Not anything excitingly new, all the things I have admitted here. BUT, what hit me was, I did the test again, keeping the last months in mind and ...I was STILL doing them NOW. I was, have been doing them. The moment I got frustrated, I reverted to my old self, building higher walls, expecting him "to know", stopped focusing on good and magnifying bads and many other things I am ashamed to mention...
Kalni, I am so glad you came to those realizations before things went any further with D proceedings. It is so awesome how H responded to your telling him you didn't want the D. From now on try to keep the interactions more positive, take the lead and he will follow.
I think I should read that book. I find myself doing some of the things you were doing.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
