Will she get it? I don't know but she did say she thought she was trying. I think continuing to call her on the rude stuff, keep take the R tempature and talking will do wonders towards where you are now.
You needed to take a reading. You knew already that you weren't where you wanted to be. However now you have her take on it too. Keep striving to get yourselves to a better place. It can't be the marriage it was before, that one was broken, but it can still be something pretty darn good.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory