After thinking about it, I can see that once again my mistake is not just dropping it and walking away when she says "I don't want to talk about it" Anything else, and I am just still feeling improperly responsible, trying to fix it, pursuing, letting her mood drag me down with it, etc.
Damn hard to do though.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.