While I do want to fight for my marriage, I do have to admit that I feel like I'm running a risk that if I push fighting this D, her lawyer will convince her to get greedy....
I'm going to tell you what my stbx told me about filing for divorce. I may have been naive when I agreed but it did make a little sense at the time.
He came to me and told me he felt he needed the divorce to be final so he could close that chapter in his life. He was not closing me out of it, just having the paperwork done was his "security blanket". He needed to be done with the old to prepare for the new. He needed to start over. He said we needed to start over as friends. It had been so long that we were apart that we could not just walk right back into where we left off.
Like you, I agreed at the time because I got a lot out of the deal. More than I should have but probably would have gotten less if I kept prolonging it.
You do what you feel is best for you. What I am saying is just because you sign papers does not mean it is a done deal. I have heard of people who divorce and get back together down the road. Make sure you get what you deserve out of this.
