I think the alcoholism is the key to this situation. If he would get help for the drinking, other things would fall into place. My son was an insane, abusive person who made my life hell. Then he got put in a substance abuse program, they made him take antabuse for 6 months, stopped the drinking, and he turned into a great person. It's great when a judge takes over the situation and forces these guys to get help. I don't know if it is possible to get them to want help on their own.
