Letting go and taking a left off last laugh lane

[MsMelancoly]

Hi Julia, I know how you feel about both issues. I took down my H's things & boxed them up a few months ago. (Well, not all his stuff is boxed up yet). I felt strange as well. Sad and yet content in a way, that life is moving on. I can't really say happy or overjoyed - just content. My H collected trains too & many other children's toys.

I also know how you feel about issues being ignored. My H is the same way. The king of avoidance!!! My H has a hard time saying "No" to people (he's a people pleaser). And well, maybe if you don't "tell" the truth - then you aren't lying if you say nothing? Just a thought & probably not a rational one either.

Since my M is going towards D, I have put the relationship books on the shelf. Currently, I have decided to learn about men & how they might think. Can't hurt right??? Currently, I am reading "The Men We Never Knew". Some stuff seems to make a lot of sense. You should read it, it may answer some questions (I think Ali should read it too). Also The Man Behind the Mask was a good book on male depression. Why do our H's run & avoid?? It's called fear (& the fear about many things).