San, I'm so sorry. I honestly can say I know how you feel. My H has played mind games with me throughout all of this and unfortunately I let him for fear of losing him for good. I guess what I didn't understand was I just prolonging the misery, I had already lost him. At this point I don't think my marriage will be able to recover.
I don't think there is a thing we can do to "make" them come home or get over the addiction of the OW. All we can do is to try to get ourselves to a healthy point of living for us and our children. The WAS is not concerned about the wellbeing of their children. It's all about what makes them happy. All we can do is work on making ourselves healthy both phyically and emotionally to be the parent they deserve.
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
