Originally Posted By: Yoyowife
Hope4us,
I swear you could be describing my H. He is a master at lying. He was playing me and the OW at the same time. He of course always told me he wasn't seeing her anymore. I assume he was telling her the same thing. So a combination of lying, manipulation, and smooth talking I think is their recipe for betrayal. It is still beyond me how someone can look you in the eye and lie that easily. Funny thing is when I would lie to protect my source I always felt bad, actually I wouldn't lie I would just tell him that I didn't want to reveal my source. He always made me feel like I was the bad person. How in the world do they make us feel like we have done something wrong?


Yoyo,

I KNOW my honesty has hurt me in this sitch. I've revealed way too much about how I know certain things and by doing that I probably extended the time it took for their A to end.

I even avoided going to my mom's house because it killed me to not be able to tell her the truth when she'd ask where W was.

That's what I feel. Almost like I'm the one that had the A and lied to everyone. And there's something wrong with that.


Hope4us

Me - 49, W 49
S22 & S18
Dday 9/4/07
W claims NC 4/7/08
8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.