Maybe I should be in piecing part 7?

[Hope4us]

Ok, not the same OM. My W's OM is just an alcoholic, abusive POS nobody that knows what to say to women. I figured that out pretty quickly, just by the things she told me he'd say to her early on after we moved.

One of W's coworkers even told her within the first week of us moving here that she needed to be careful with OM because he was always fishin. W thought that was funny so she took some goldfish crackers to his office one day and left a note "gone fishin?"

I'm thinkin that right there let him know she was available.

I know my W hurts that he just used her. She knows he had another GF after he moved away from here while he was keeping up the game with W.

I haven't tried to convince her she was just used for a long time. Cheeseless tunnel and I don't need her feeling any worse about her self that I feel she already does. Lack of dignity isn't going to help US.

Has she come to terms with it? I don't know. I know there were a number of times over the weekend when she was either crying or ready to break down. And I think of her not remembering things or not being able to put a finger on how it happened even when she knew it was going there as a sign that she was in a different place. Was it him? Was it a combo of MLC/predator/relocation stress that allowed it to happen? That I will go to my grave believing.

Now the question is, will we be able to get through it? Your posts have helped me have a lot more sympathy for her. I just need to decide if she's not willing to do a few simple things for me to show me she gets it if that's a deal breaker or not.

Thanks Break. Keep em coming.