I just spoke with the folks who sent me the summons. They were predictably rude and unhelpful. And apparently the amount I owe is now twice what the summons states because it doesn't take into account court costs. And they have no records of me calling to try to work this out--go figure. If I go to court, they will garnish my wages. I cannot imagine taking home less than I currently do; I'm feeding us both on $40/month. Not well, but doing it nevertheless. What am I supposed to do if they take part of my wages?! But the likelihood of me coming up with almost $1000 before mid-April is about the same as the likelihood that h*ll will freeze over.

Yes, he's responsible for the debt because we're still married. But he won't have to go to court; I signed the financial responsiblity form, it is I who will have to face the consequences.

So what this probably means is that I will have to move out of my house and find something less expensive. Which will mean my daughter will lose her dogs (well, me too) and will face yet more changes. And I'll have to figure out how to move without any assistance at all; not a pleasant prospect. Heck--not really possible.

I only hope that H is very happy and fulfilled in his new life. Because he's pretty much ruined ours.


M60
H52
D20
M14 yrs
OW-old gf from 1986
bomb-5/18/08
H filed for D-9/10/08
D final 4/24/09
xH remarried (not OW) 2012