Maybe I should be in piecing part 7?

[Hope4us]

Wow Break.

I don't want to try to be an arm chair psychologist, but you might be on to something. The thing is, the things W now complains about were things she either initiated or admired in the past. Saturday night she said after we moved she discovered she felt smothered because we were always together, even at work. We drove in together, ate lunch together, drove home together. I remember one time a number of years ago that I suggested we go out for lunch with friends and she told me no, she liked having lunch with me and then asked me if I had a girlfriend. She also said she hated that I dominate conversations and I distinctly remember one time her saying she just loved listening to me carry on conversations with our friends because she loved how my mind worked and I thought of things she'd never think of. But, we relocate and all of the sudden, those things made her vulnerable? Kind of sounds like she had some outside influence telling her how to think.....and we know who that might have been.

I remember one point when she was in the middle of the A, but before I figured it out. We were discussing something going on in her job (she's an admin) related to decisions getting made and how she felt like she should be making some decisions that in all reality are decisions mgmt should be making. Well, at some point in the conversation, I said something to the affect that she was an admin and those decisions should be made by mgmt. She went off, yelling and crying hysterically because I made her feel like nothing. And this was so unlike her. She's always been very smart in how the company org chart works and she's known that she is not in a decision making position, but her reaction to hit really made me wonder what was going on.

Around that same time she said to me she hated her new job because no one listens to her in staff meetings and because she's been around for so long, she had good points/ideas and no one would listen.

Seems like you could be on to something that OM might have sensed this and played on her insecurities/vulnerabilities to move in for the kill.

I think predator is correct. Don't know if you've read my whole sitch, but in the previous A that OM had that his W knows about, the day OMW's dad was taken off life support to die, OM wouldn't come home to be with his W and kids. That night he was in a DUI accident with the current OW he had. Nice guy, huh?

Can you explain to me some of the PTSD symptoms you've experienced? I take it there was a predator in your past also?