I have to say as I read that post from Saturday, that I think you should actually be cautiously encouraged. What I see is that he stuck to the script. He tried to find a way to be weirded out and communicate that to you. I think you should have left it alone after you asked if he was Ok. Let him go with the conversation at that point.
I read it that he's timidly working his way back to your R. Very timidly and when you open up too much, you scare him off or he gets a mixed signal or something he's hoping to pin on you. Don't let him.
I think a better way for next time would be to ask if he's Ok. Once he answers, let him take the conversation where he's going to take it. No pressure. No judgement. If it tears you up, don't let him see it, but instead be thoughtful and listen to his concerns. If you need to walk away instead of saying something you'll regret, then let him know that you'll repsect the space and you'll come back to the conversation later.
That would be a 180 for your two, right? It'll help you to get a chance to get your wits about you. It'll teach the two of you to have a conversation without killing each other. It'll give him a chance to feel safe and wanted in the relationship you two really do have. Even if it doesn't feel like you do, you do have a relationship. As Kassie mentioned, he hasn't left. That's because he doesn't want to give up yet. He just doesn't know how to reconnect.
What once came easily and naturally, now will take extreme effort. It won't be that way forever, but for now, you'll need to recognize this and revel in it.
You are strong. You could have left. You could have cut him off completely and shot arrows at him. You did not. You're trying even though the pain is excruciating. You should get a purple heart for that. You need to GAL. You need to build your own self-confidence and you need to understand what it is you want. I think that clarity will help you immensely. Both of you really, but you're the one I'm concerned about the most.
Stay in the game. Yesterday's gone, and tomorrow isn't here yet. Live in today and realize that a setback is not a bad thing - like feelings it just is. Learn from it but don't dwell on it.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
It'll help you to get a chance to get your wits about you. It'll teach the two of you to have a conversation without killing each other. It'll give him a chance to feel safe and wanted in the relationship you two really do have. Even if it doesn't feel like you do, you do have a relationship. As Kassie mentioned, he hasn't left. That's because he doesn't want to give up yet. He just doesn't know how to reconnect. 
