Spellfire #4 - Sparks, but no Flames

[garyjlost]

Yeah, if she's wearing lingerie, that's gotta be good, right? I wish my wife would wear lingerie.

But I feel like I know where you're at. You get lingerie, which is good, but you really want her to be turned on. You don't want this to just be a duty that she's simply doing for your benefit.

It's good that she's doing it, yes. No argument about that. And you can talk yourself into believing that it's baby steps. She's moving forward a little bit at a time. Eventually, you'll get the whole package. That's the dream anyway.

But it's always something. I try to convince myself that I just need to be patient. That my wife and I are working on improving our marriage (and our sex life). Eventually, she'll be there in all the ways that I want. But the doubts wear away the confidence (and maybe even undermine the progress).

I really need to set aside some time to read all your threads. There are too many similarities.