Kalni, you are right and I am really trying to stay positive. Thank you for reminding me
I suppose it comes down to the issue again of me getting annoyed because I have to go at his speed. Whenever I 'request' something it gets ignored - the email to him saying I know about ow, asking him to come and work on the house so we could have got it on the market earlier, me asking him for his contribution towards the bills he needs to pay half of. But when he wants something and I am co-operative (and I always am!) then he responds so much better.
I get annoyed that he won't man up and just give me an answer if it is something negative. For example he could just say no, I don't want to start paying the mortgage yet, or yes, I am seeing another woman and I have moved in with her. The thing I am annoyed about is the lack of response not so much the individual issues - for me the ow and the not paying the mortgage are side issues. It is the fact he just ignores me and hope that it goes away, which mainly it does because I drop it. Why should I?
Every time this comes up these old issues for me rear and I don't know how to get past these old hurts because he does it over and over. I get so frustrated. I don't the solution to this.
