Maybe it b/c they hate themselves, but it is still too painful to clean up the mess and go within it isnt you
Peace, that's exacty right! My H has even said this to me, of course in different words. He said it's "easier" to just walk away than try to fix all of the mess and go through it. I can't imagine how it's easier to walk away from your family, but I guess to them it is.
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"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher