But some of the revelations are tough to deal with. Her knowing that OM had had numerous A's prior to it going PA the first time is tough to handle. Hearing that she knew where it was headed and chose to go there anyway is tough to handle. Hearing that she was attracted to him very early on and let it go on anyway is tough to handle. Hearing that she knew where it was going and just didn't think about the consequences and chose to do it anyway is tough to handle.
Hi Hope, haven't dropped by in a while...
I just wanted to throw something in here, about the particular kind of OM your W was involved with. Don't underestimate how these predators work. Seriously. They will f*#k with your mind in a way that has to be experienced to be believed. She probably can't even explain to herself exactly how or why it happened...like she does seem to understand what made her vulnerable...but not why it tipped into the affair.
It's not even "addiction" as much as mind control with someone like that. This is not to excuse it..please don't get me wrong, but these guys inflict enormous psychological damage on their victims. She's probably not even aware of it. (It's still her responsibility, for getting drawn in.)
I hope she does get rid of any gifts or items pertaining to him. Pressure to do so probably won't work, but if they go, it will help release her from residual problems.
