Maybe I should be in piecing part 7?

[Hope4us]

Thanks Pup.

I think what you've said has a lot of truth to it.

What I am struggling with mostly is, is this a person I want to be with. I mean, if she knew where it was going and did it anyway without any concern for how it would affect me and the kids and a whole host of others, is she really who I want to be with?

I'm sure what I'm feeling is what we've all felt when we're faced with whether we want to try to make it work or not.

It's almost like, for a year and a half I've been trying so hard to save our marriage, I never really thought about if I really can deal with this and will I be able to get over it?

Like I said, I'm sure everyone in these sitch's have had these same feelings. I'm sure it's part of the process of getting through it, but some of the things she revealed have really hit me hard. I guess it's good on some level that she's done that self reflection that needs to be done, but on another level, I'm just not sure, like you mentioned, if I've been in love with US and our marriage or her, if that makes sense.

Maybe I really should move over to the Piecing board to talk with others who have gone through this?