Puppy, She NOW says it "started to crumble 2-3 years ago". ... I would have raised the issue 2-3 years ago if I thought there was a problem, why didn't she?
She has re-written your marital history in order to help herself justify what she is doing to you and your family. No R is perfect, but if she had issues serious enough to warrant a D then it was HER responsibility to verbalize them.
No one is a mind reader. We can only address issues we are aware of. Burn this into your head and own it. It is true.
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She does not take any responsibility for our demise and she wants it all to end as quickly as possible.
This is SOP (Standard Operating Procedure) for the WAW. "Give me what I want and deserve RIGHT NOW"...with no thought or concern for the people in their circles. In my opinion, it is a by-product of our entitlement society. I deserve everything...but I am not willing to work for it.
My advice is to use her desperation for it to end quickly as a tool to get a good deal in the D. If she is eventually willing to work on the R (and you find you are too), then you will have all the time in the world to do so.
Until then...this is business. You are going to have to live with this deal for the rest of your life. You can't control her or her feelings, bu you CAN control the quality of the deal you get now.
H: 38 W: 36 S: 8 S: 5 M: 16 Bomb: 8/25/08 OM: 9/21/08 EA (Possible PA) with co-worker since 5/08 (at least...) Sep: 9/21/08 D Filed 9/23/08 My Situation
