My situation #9

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Friday night my W had the kids overnight at her mom's house as usual. So I spent some time at home taking care of stuff and then went to my brothers house for a few hours and watched a movie.

Saturday my W and kids got home around 1:00 and my W had to go to her L office. She called me on her way home and started to talk about wanting to sit down with the lawyers and figure out a way to come to a settlement so we won't have to pay all kinds of money to hammer it out in court.

I told her I would be ok with trying that. Then she started to talk about having to write up stuff to answer my lawyers request for specific times and dates and detail meanings of words that were in the court order she took out on me. Again I asked her to just drop the thing because she doesn't need it. I told her all the stuff in there was from the past and nothing even resembling any behaviors even close to that stuff was evening happening. She said she didn't want to drop it because it gives her peace of mind. So I let it go.

So I hung out with the kids and made them dinner. Then my W came home with groceries and me and the kids went outside to play. We ate dinner and my W gave the kids baths. Then we put them to bed. She drank 3 beers that night. I think she's modifying her drinking around me because of the whole court/D thing.

After the baths my W and I were in the bathroom cleaning up after the kids and my W turned to me and said, "I just want you to know I'm working on my inability to express anger in an appropriate way. It usually comes out as yelling and screaming because that's how I grew up - we didn't express that kind of stuff in my house." I told her that's something that had a play in causing damage in our M. She said she knew that. She said she was working on alot of things about herself.

Of course, in my mind I'm thinking, "Great. This is the stuff I wanted you to work on in the past year." But I didn't say anything like that.

I have more and I'll update later on.