Endless Optimism II

[pearlharbr]

Sorry I'm late to the party, had my furnace issues to deal with.

Silva, I will agree with JD on this one. Please don't rush into a relationship. I don't want to see either you or this woman hurt because you aren't ready for this.

Don't get me wrong, I fully comprehend the rush of excitement when someone of the opposite sex tells you how wonderful you are. But there is a difference between feeling appreciated and getting involved. You need time to work on yourself and get to a place where you are happy with yourself and comfortable being alone. Only then will you be able to enter a healthy relationship.

Sorry to get all Dr. Phil on you. Just repeating what my counselor told me.

Polly, I have talked on my thread (I think) about using male attention to regain some self confidence. I lap up the newfound attention I'm getting from men. But I feel like I'm using it like a crutch. My counselor said it's a normal reaction and it's ok as long as I realize that I'm not ready for another relationship at this point.

So that's what I do. I flirt but not seriously. Tawnya is right, it's nice when the cute guys flirt back. Or like tonight when the bar manager paid my dinner bill for me. But I know that I'm not ready nor do I want a new relationship right now. I'm still undecided as to whether or not I ever want another serious relationship. That's the flip side. I never want to go through this pain again so I don't know if I'll ever be willing to risk it. More work to do on me.

Sorry if that came across as threadjacking, I just feel very strongly about this topic and I feel that true friends will speak their mind when the situation warrants it.

(((Silva))) hope you take this as it's intended, with love.