25years has given some great pointers to you...not least:-
"If I knew I wanted to work on the M, I'd spare myself that pain and work on ME"
I've been there - 2 years ago...i have no advice - merely reflections on what i wish I had done...
I would have not have snooped - or if I had I would have challenged straight away I would have acted As If!!! I would have sorted out a whole load of 180s I would have looked into the concept of "love busters" via marriagebuilders
This is a really difficult thing to deal with...your anger is "nothing" its not productive - clearly its not...it doesn't have to be part of you - in the same was as procrastination doesn't have to be part of me!!!
What do you achieve by being angry? For me procrastination was a form of control i think..."I just need to think about that"
Anger I think may be an extreme expression of that - perhaps you can offer something more?
But - hey LonelyRzr - things could be ok...
And you know what - you have found the best place!
As i'm sure you realise - GFI
GFI,
Thanks for posting in my last thread!
I do want to work on my marriage. Its the most important thing to me in my life. And I know that I need to quit snooping, and hopefully I will stop that from now on, but there are no guarantees
I am trying like heck to act "as if" and GAL and 180's
I need to check out "love busters" and also check out marriagebuilders.
I also know the anger does nothing productive and I am trying to stop it and I have done a pretty good job this weekend.
I will keep it up and thanks again for stopping by and giving me your words of encouragement.
