It's so great seeing you all posting here on Gs thread! I miss reading about you and what's been going on in your lives.
Laughing, I don't know what to say..other than I wish I was there to help you through this time
Jaybee..congrats!
Karen...I agree, Gs a pretty wonderful, indepent chick!! LOL
AmyC..it's really interesting the type of relationship you have with your xh. Many here might feel envy that you've been able to co-exist this way. Hope it's a sign of good things to come.
As I was reading Gs last post, it got me thinking. Is a person truly detached if they still feel awkward around their x spouse? Wouldn't detachment mean that you've distanced yourself enough that you wouldn't feel uncomfortable around them..you basically would feel what you might if they were just another acquaintance?
I remember hearing once that there is a fine line between love/hate. But detachment is worse than hate..because you feel nothing at all.
So, where are we? The ones that say we are detached enough not to be thrown for a loop when thrown together with our WAS...but we know that we still have loving feelings , and at times still feel the anger, hurt and betrayal.
I guess I don't want to feel so detached that I don't have feelings for xh anymore, but detached enough that the negative feelings don't flood my mind continuously. Or maybe that's a form of forgiveness on my part whether I realized it or not. And if our WAS avoid being where we are, does that mean they are not completely detached either? I would think after many years of separation and living their own lives (supposedly happily) they wouldn't care if they were around us or not.
Hmmm...I'm thinking too deeply again. Have to stop that (hitting my head on the wall for punishment)
I hope you oldies will stop in occasionally, as it's been a real treat to hear your opinions and catch up on how you've been doing.
My best to all of you
PS...has anyone heard from/about mermaid?
Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible
