It certainly isn't the answer - there is a reason that many more second marriages fail than first.
However, I bet Silva would agree that it is an unbelievable antidote to the ills that a whacky WAS brings to you - but at the risk of being a buzz-kill, remember that this is how most affairs start, and we know how most of those end.
Silva, you know we love ya, so just keep your rational hat on!
I would welcome the distraction though. like silva , just to take your mind off this crap we are in. To have someone show an interest in me would be lovely.
But I agree... not the answer and unfair on the person who is the rebound, transistional crutch.
Although, on the flip side, not many people have the incredible life lessons I believe that DBing, and the support of the people on this forum bring.
I really do give alot of credit to this forum, the DBing books, and many people on here for some significant changes in my life the last couple of months - I may never get W back, but I absolutely have become, and am continuing to become a better person.
I just was talking to someone about dating after divorce, and I said I wasn't interested in dating - because in my age bracket, it would most likely be a divorcee, and I don't think I'd feel comfortable saying, "Hi, nice to meet you, how about a date? Oh, and by the way have you been to http://www.divorcebusting.com?".
Ha Ha Thats funny. Never thought about that. At least if you did discover they had been to this forum , you would know that they were fighters and people with the very best intention and respect of marriages.
True Polly..it would be nice and that's why they don't let us private message each other on here, who wouldn't want a nice man who fought so hard for his marriage/or nice woman in vice versa eh?? Tho.it doesn't always work like that..
Polly..you are right..having people tell you that you are lovely or whatever, at least showing an interest, is a NICE thing..I've had a few of those happen in the past few months, even had a 22 yo (not at the video game store Pearl LOL) seem interested and a really NICE looking guy from Canada actually emailed and IM'd me today BUT..I have to be happy with myself and not let any of these guys make me seem happy or not, cause they can be disappointing just as well as they can be great LOL (sorry men, not being mean on that one..just realistic..as I can be totally disappointing too I'm sure!)
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
Yeah - I agree . Too soon would be disaster all round and we would learn nothing of who we are. So lost in my marriage , that I dont know what I want or who i am. I see this as an oppotunity to grow and be ahppy with me.
But ... nothing can compare to being adored or loved by another person.....dam now I am really sad!
aww {{{Polly}}} you are right about that..but imagine how much better it will be when we are loved and adored AND love ourselves too..that will be way cool indeed
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
