Thanks amd and toh. I'm still trying to learn the line between supporting and being a mother.
A few items to note - -H was very late one night, he sent me a txt where he was and why. -We were up eary the next day to take our 'stuff' to a trade show. I got in the shower and H joined me! Maybe it was just because we were running late but H is a person that is used to being late. -H slept all night in our bed. My back was killing me and I asked during the day if he would give me a back rub at night. When I went to bed I asked if he still would, and H came to bed soon after I went. He didn't turn off the lights or tv in the other room, but he spent the whole night in our bed with me. This is the first time since Sept 2004 that he slept with me in our bed without someone else staying on the couch. So, 3 things very different from MLC H and very like Real H.
H was looking for a specific photo so we dug thru a pile of stuff on the desk. Wow that was tough! Pictures from when the family was together for his mom's funeral, pictures from the kids graduation, pictures from our World Champion show days, pictures from our good days, even one in a rare dance together.
I went to a home and business show end of the week, a mediator had coupons for $150 off her service for D mediation. I skipped it at first but then circled back and took one.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.