My MAIN priority in saving this M has always been to give my children what the W and I lacked in our childhood; two loving parents, living in the same house, married and in-love with each other
What are the odds of that being what you are going to get.
MC - when you really really think about it - is it possible ?
I dont know the answer and perhaps neither will you until something changes. Just don't lose site of what is most important here. Kids can be a lot more adjusted with one good parent rather than 2 non attentive , caught up in their own drama parents living in the same house.
You can give your kids all the loving they need by being their dad and giving them stability, hugs, nourishment and shelter and attention.
Now the concept of a working relationship with a WAS and be getting along is foreign to me.
I can have a working relationship and be getting along with someone I respect. I can have a purely working relationship and get results without the friendship.
Why is she entitled to get along with you. Set up the rules and the timetable and stick with it until it does not suit kids anymore. discuss issues regarding kids but hell she should not be entitled to get along with you. She has to earn that
Thats good MC. I like you dont get angry but I wont be a friend either. It should not be a dog fight ever but she is not entitled to be your friend. i suppose i took getting a long to mean sitting sharing a coffee and laughing at old times !
Losing the anger is really good b/c it helps you. Anger can consume us otherwise and how can that be good for the kids? You are right to work on it.
In the long run, kids also gravitate towards the parent who is least angry. Makes sense. You are on the right track MC.
(( j ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
The W has not mentioned any reconciliation since nearly 3 weeks ago.
Yesterday, she picked up the kids from school. She has every Wed. off for now; so that's her afternoon. She took them to her place and made dinner for them and called me to see if I wanted some of it for lunch today. I said "sure." So when she brought the kids home she had my lunch with her.
She stayed the night in the house for the first time in I don't know how long; but she was there because I had to go into work at 3am this morning. when I went to bed I could hear her talking on the phone in the basement. She was talking about why all kinds of guys seem to want to confide in her. I knew who she was probably talking to and I confirmed it this afternoon when I got home. Checked the redial on the phone. Seems there still is communication with the OM; not sure what's going on, but from the sounds of what I heard he isn't happy with all her contact with other guys. He don't know that it just gets worse. LOL! but I ain't warning him.
My boy informed me that his mom let him oversleep and he was tardy to school. So there's no improvement in that area.
{{{MC}}} ugh..hate that there are no improvements in at least the kid areas..that's annoying I'm sure! Probably weird for her to be in the house, even tho for good reason..
Do you have a good weekend planned?
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
