I feel mean but I am glad they are fighting and not happy. Secretly, this is what I have been hoping for. They may still make up after their fight but I hope the cracks are showing and for my H, who is passive-agressive who avoids confrontations, it must be very difficult for him.
I feel the same way too. My H was really happy when he moved out and that hurt, but he hasn't seemed happy since then really. He sends me cranky emails all the time!!! I mean like dozens every week. How happy could he be with OW if he's doing that?
I think just like us they do have to go through depression and pain about this, but maybe they've already gone through some before the bomb, and OWs in my opinion are bandaids; a distraction for the person's real problems. I don't think these women are women that tend to have lasting Rs; the ow in my case is D her 3rd husband. I think it's an addiction also, and those wear off. But then the thing is will you want him back afterwards???? Honestly, sometimes I'm amazed at how much we do cartwheels and handstands and the like for these WAS that are at the very least troubled people. Karen
