Just read your post at MR Lost. Came over to your thread to respond. I think your assessment of the weekend is correct. You did push him away with your comments to go get the D. At the same time, you missed seeing the progress or positives on his part. Positives: 1) he asked to stay instead of letting you go 2) he hasn't filed, not because of the money but he doesn't want to 3) he suggested slowing down the D talk and taking a break.
I also wanted to change your word "accomodating him" to working things out with him. The main problem I read here is that you overreact to his disconnection, and reinforce the disconnection between you both instead of making moves towards each other. I say this to support your intention to work on saving the M. If you have changed your mind or are unsure then take the time you need to get the information you need to make the best decision.
Finally, a word about "feelings" - our feelings are as stable as fleeting thoughts crossing our minds. Notice them, see where they take you and then let them go. Feelings give us information to help us sort out what needs to be done - they do not have all the answers - that is what thoughts provide and good friends.
Hang in there - sounds all in all a difficult weekend but it is over and a new week to start fresh - either way.
Let me know what you think and how you are doing today.
