What have I done that seemed to work? Listen, validate, be pleasant.
What have I done that hasn't seemed to work? As if, GAL -- "that's good for you but doesn't interest me in the slightest."
"Dropped the rope"? No comprendo. My goal was reconciliation. That rope? No, haven't dropped it.
Separation seems like a major milestone on the road to divorce. Does it make DB'ing easier or harder? I "get" the focus on me benefit, but in terms of working the reconciliation. New strategies? Or is this the cut-point where DB'ing ceases to be about busting the divorce and starts being about moving on?
Thing is, her intent is to get an apartment w/in +2-5 miles of the house, so that she can come over and put the kids to bed, etc. With her commute she's usually not home until 7:30 anyway, and she has a lot of work trips (legit ones; I've done the reimbursement submissions), so the kids are sort of used to her not being in the house. This is a bigger "not being in the house" for them, but she thinks it won't seem so big if she's nearby.
But of course that compounds the DB challenge. Oy vey iz mir.
