He sent me an email the other day. It started out "I have so many things I want to say to you, but I figure that you dont want to hear any of it" The rest of the email was all business, how we are going to resolve the house and such. Then at the end he adds this PS, "Just so you know; I havent been in a relationship for 7 months, Ive been wanting to tell you that since October"

Why would I care when the ^&*Y%&#@ OW dumped him, doesnt he realize that Im a little more concerned with when his affair STARTED?

This has been going on for so, so long, I am tired! Still not divorced, so Ive been in a little bit of hell for the last year almost, with what I imagine will be the worst part yet to come! I havent even spoken to him in months, I decided that if this is what he wants, he can have it. I dont know what to make of the beginning of his email, or the end, when I responded I didnt even react to his PS, but I did tell him that I think that a big part of how we got here is him holding his tongue when we needed him to speak up, and that I am ready to listen to whatever he needs to say. I havent checked my email in about a week now because I am terrified that he responded.

I have been doing better lately than I have in a long time, things have finally settled down, I dont know what to make of this latest communication, or if I should make anything of it! I cant speak to him on the phone without breaking down, thats why I asked him to communicate with me through email.

I just needed to vent about it I guess.

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...