"I don't wanna spend my life jaded, waiting...

[theotherhalf]

Well another sign that TOH is learning and growing and now able to stand on her own two feet...H came we talked. It got into finances. I brought up the house. We discussed as "normal" M would do. Then I said "while we are on th subject, and I have been avoiding this because I know you are working, and I dont want to fight with you, But... if I cant make my bills that is my problem and i will deal with that, but I need $xxx a month from you, in child support and 1/2 the house pymt. In Feb I got $xxx and average for Jan/Feb was $xxx." he immediately got defensive and said "well I aint got it and I have to pay my bills." I said, "that's the problem, your bills are paid always on time, and mine have to wait or not get paid. And that's my problem except if this was legal I would get $xxx from you and I need that. Some of my Feb bills did not get paid and it is now middle of march. And I don't want to be a b*tch, or pressure you, and I realize you are working but here it is." he then calmed and we talked about it and he talked about some solutions. Then he sat down with me and we worked on some farm paperwork that has been laying here. And he said he'd call the insurance guy tomorrow that he's been putting off.

All in all we accomplished something FINALLY! It was a good 2 hour conversation and we walked away feeling good about it. At least I did.