People, I promise you, almost without exception, these people would rather live in lice than admit to you they did wrong. How can someone come out of MLC if they are not able to admit wrong? I don't think they can.
On the other hand, Bravehart, I know of at least one MLCer who has often admitted he was wrong .. yet remains as stuck as stuck can be. Of course I'm talking about my XH. He's had extreme remorseful breakdowns and has told me repeatedly he is unhappy with his new life. Yet .. he does nothing.
He has run the whole gamut. Blaming me .. blaming himself Remorseful .. accusatory Talking too much .. talking too little Loves me .. resents me Calls me all the time .. calls me not at all But has never said he was happy.
After four years he still doesn't know what he wants.
After four years, I am just tired of trying to figure him out. Mostly I don't even try anymore.
To that I would say that he is just talking and not truly admitting anything wrong. I know you said he had those "emotional outbursts of remorse" but, if it were for real, he would have made amends. Just my opinion.
