He won't ask for help, but if I know of something and offer he will say sure. I'm not sure just how much I should try to do for him. It reminds me of the old days when I did all I could to show my support and in return I got shut out of his life and told I never supported anything he did! I do want to help and support and be part of his life but that is not the same as being an erand girl. Where is the balance....
DB coach Chuck told me that I had become more like H's mother than his wife and that I needed to not do for him so much. It is a really fine line, and sometimes I fall onto the wrong side. Maybe in your case you can say something, "Let me know if you need any help with that," and leave it with him to reach out and ask.
