Now the concept of a working relationship with a WAS and be getting along is foreign to me.
I can have a working relationship and be getting along with someone I respect. I can have a purely working relationship and get results without the friendship.
Why is she entitled to get along with you. Set up the rules and the timetable and stick with it until it does not suit kids anymore. discuss issues regarding kids but hell she should not be entitled to get along with you. She has to earn that
