Glad you are pursuing your faith. Don't know how anyone gets through this type of thing without it. I really don't think many do. Have you seen the movie, "Fireproof"? A lot of people said it touched their lives and marriages.
If you do see it, don't mention it to your wife until you've given it lots of thought. For now, keep up the work on yourself. It's all you can do anyhow.
(( j ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
W texted me out of the blue today via phone. Wanted to know about the Florida Gators. I didn't ask why.
Then she told me that D7 stepped up and led her bible class in prayer. I said I am very proud of her for doing that.
Then W told me she was at lunch. I said no problem, enjoy.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I have seen the previews for Fireproof. Me and W both have seen the previews.
But ya, I am working on myself and trying to focus on studying. I think I just needed a reality check and you are good at giving that.
I appreciate it,
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Did she dislike the message she thought the movie had? I just saw it an hour ago. To tell you the truth, the h looks worse than the wife by a long shot, (unless that's my bias speaking)...but then it ends well of course.
From a writing/directing standpoint I had some quibbles but leaving that aside, it was touching. So, that's that. See it alone if you are going to see it.
(( j ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
It seems like she's reaching out albeit, very slowly.
Look good yourself when you're talking to the girls. Make them proud of you as their dad. Keep ignoring the W and just answer her with short yes and no answers.
Make like you're having the time of your life.
You're doing great on this path Kev. Keep it up!
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I think I will be signing off yall. I think I made to many mistakes.
I wish you all the best and hope you all save your marriages. Don't be stupid like I was.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Don't quit. Stay here with us and give it time. Stay the course! It may not save your marriage, but it will help you become better. We are here for you.
I think I ran everyone off LonelyRzr because I couldn't stick to any plans. This whole D has just really messed me up emotionally.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I understand what you are going through. My W hasn't filed yet, but she is emotionally gone right now and I am also out of the house. I am also an emotional wreck and am struggling with it every minute of every day. Have you looked into getting some antidepressants? I just started Celexa and hopefully that will help. I have followed your sitch and you are doing the right things about finding friends and church, ect. You just need to start detaching (as hard as that is to do), I am trying as well and its hard but you have to stick with it. Work on you, work on things you like to do and stop making your happiness tied to your M. Again, easier said than done, but it is a must.
I have really been working on fitness, church, and learning. I have a list of books that I have read and will read. Just hang in there and I don't think you have run everyone off. I will be praying for you.
