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[TRUSTING]

Thanks for posting on my thread.

I just read yours, and it does reek of MLC.

I am so sorry you are going through this hell.

My heart was aching when I read some of your posts because it reminded me of my sitch.

I do have a 4 year old.

My ex did exactly what yours is doing.

He and his OW use to take my 4 year-old on walks with them.

They don't care about morals.

They are not rational.

How I explained all this to my 4 year old brings tears to my eyes. Never did I think I would have to do that.

I told her that daddy was not well. He was not behaving like Jesus wants us to. He does not want to always be with mommy now. I told her that I still love him, but we could not live together anymore because of how he was behaving. I told her that no matter what, daddy would always love her and want to be with her. The simpler the better. No details, just basic facts.

The more you try to convince them that what they are doing is wrong, the more he will do it.

The more you tell him not to bring your daughter around OW, the more he will.

That is just what they do.

They rebel against you, morals, principles, and God.

They are children when they are in MLC, and not good children.

[SoCo]

Thanks Trusting. I noticed when I read your thread that our situations were a lot alike.
It helps me to be angry.
I swear I have never been so angry in my life that he took my d around the ow while we are still married! They don't think of anyone but themselves and what they want. You are right, it's like a kid only worse because they are freaking grown men.

Kids are actually kind hearted. I teach 4th grade and some of the more sensitive kiddos in my class have sensed that something is going on with me and have been so sweet. It helps a lot that I have people at work and home to help me keep going.

I have tried so hard to explain things to my d in a simple way, and it is so difficult.

If it was just me, I feel I would have more options. Flat out walk away from his a** and never look back, or leave it in limbo for a while and whatever will be will be. However, I have to protect my kids financially and psychologically from his crazy nonsense behavior. I'm proceding with getting the d papers done on Tuesday.

I can do this.
I am strong.
I can be happy and my kids can be happy.
I don't need his crazy acting, cheating, nonsense spewing, no time for my kids but time to drink and get a tatoo a**!! ; )
I am woman hear me roar!!! LOL

ps. I downloaded Brittney Spears "Womanizer" as my ring tone when he calls. Ha,ha,ha!!!! Of course my kids don't notice or know the meaning of that or I'd have to take it off. Tee hee hee. Getting my sense of humor back is a good thing. It was gone for a little while.