If you treat her like an ass, then the viscous cycle continues.
You don't need the added stress.
Ignore her. I know how awful it is when they hurt our babies. Better to use the energy focusing on trying to make the babies feel better than to put any energy into her drama.
Memphis in May is right around the corner, you get to see Tommy, and when you do please give him a big hig from me. :-)
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