Oh, and don't give up hope just yet man. You are only just starting to really "get it" and it takes time for that to affect change in your R.
You are going to have backslides and down days, it is not the end of the world btw. Don't beat yourself up too much, just put them down to experience and work on bouncing back asap.
I'm actually not beating myself up at all. I don't think I've really backslid as I didn't get very emotional at all. I did realize that I've failed to show compassion. I'm got to remeber to keep that in mind as that has been the heart of our relation issues
Ah so much to keep track of and remember
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
