Hi TOH, I just came over here from the newcomers board. I so understand what you are going through with your h acting like he still wants to be with you, but only when he wants too. I continued to have sex with h when he would come over, like we were still married. Then, he would ignore me or I knew that he was running around most days at least having an ea with someone else. I had sex with him last Monday for the last time while all of this is going on. I have resolved that I am not a prostitute or whore. You cannot tell me you love me, have sex with me, and then run around and do whatever you want. It made me feel like a cheap piece of garbage. Also, the more he doesn't have time to see our kids, but I know that he is going out to drink and play poker, work out every morning, etc. I begin to despise him. If he is going to work out a 7:30 each morning, why can't he come take our s8 to school instead? Priorities, that's why. Stay strong, and don't give in. I will honestly answer the question that someone else asked about the sex. I did in the back of my mind think that if I kept doing it, it would keep him more connected with me and not go to ow for it. However, that is not enough and it makes me feel dirty. I do not even want him anymore, so who cares? I feel sorry for the girl/woman (I think in my case she's pretty young) that picks up this train wreck. He's not husband worthy right now. Good luck, TOH! Stay strong.
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