In my year or so on these boards and taking into account my sitch, I have come to several conclusions. Some are pretty dare I say pessimistic. Or as I like to call them realistic. One of the major themes around here as you may have noticed is the OW / OM syndrome. What I am saying is not earth shattering stuff but it is part of the basics of DB .... the stuff we tend to forget when we have been at it for a certain period of time. It is very difficult to compete with an OW / OP.....but unfortunately, that is what it boils down to. Lan needs to become the lan of old...the lan that his wife used to love.....he needs to offer his wife what the OM is offering. I know this is extremely difficult to do because our natural reaction (although it may vary from case to case) is to want to inflict some type of pain (usually verbal) on your spouse when we find out about it. Getting up in the morning and whistling your favourite tune while smiling radiantly is not easy to do when you suspect the OM or OW is still in the picture. Unfortunatelly, the competition has begun....you can be mysterious, you can GAL, you can do all kinds of things. At the end of the day, you are in a battle for your W.....for your marriage. Since you are from Europe I will use a soccer analogy. It is the end of the first half and things did not go well so far.....not even close to the way things went during the first game which you met this team. So you are in the locker room....wondering what you need to do to turn this around. Chances are the manager will suggest changes....chances are that the manager's suggestions will probably have something to do with how the team performed in the last game you played this team. So, what I am saying is change your tactics (unless you think the game is over). If you still care about winning this game go back to what you did when you were successful....otherwise you are just waiting for the final whistle and injury time may be long and a little painful. Lan, we all want you to win this game....but we are all fans / we think we have the answers....you lan have the answer.....you are in the thick of things.....you know what you used to do.....you know whether this game is still salvageable. You may think you are giving your 100%....sadly, it may not be enough. Only time will tell.... Ok, the teams are back on the field for the second half......the fans are on their feet encouraging the home team!!!
